On being a good person
Standards I would like to follow in my interactions with others:
- Don’t take yourself too seriously. Have a sense of humor. Realize that what you are doing may be less important and serious than you think it is.
- Be open and honest with yourself. Recognize what you feel and what you want. Do not deny that your emotions and desires exist. At the same time, know that it is possible to change thoughts and behaviors.
- Be open and honest with others. Let other people know how you feel; don’t assume that they will figure it out themselves. Do not hide yourself from others. Do not try to lead separate private and public lives.
- Be empathetic. Know how you are perceived by others and how your actions affect them. Understand others’ moods and emotions and react appropriately. Recognize others’ insecurities and compensate when necessary.
- Neither seek out nor withdraw from confrontation. Do not intentionally pick fights. At the same time, do not avoid actions that might provoke hostility. Do not step down from a confrontation unless your opinion has been heard.
- Be humble. Don’t exaggerate the importance of your opinions or actions. Don’t assume that others are less intelligent or competent than you, regardless of their experience. Don’t brag (much!).
- Cultivate relationships. Do not wait for people to come to you; seek them out. Do not wait for someone to scratch your back before you will scratch theirs.